Are you a black woman looking for a white man? You should know this

For years, black women have been advised by so many people to stop waiting for their black knight and jump into black woman white man relationships. Well, this advice is never meant to dismiss black men as suitable mates. It is given so that black women can be open to finding love, no matter the race of potential mate. And today, we are seeing more such relationships.

Whatever reasons you have for wanting to try black woman white man dating don't really matter. What matters is that you want to. Well, here are a few things to know.

What to expect from black white relationships

You are not alone

You need not to worry. You are not alone. Most black girls are now trying 'something new'. Meghan Markle did it and she is now the Duchess of Sussex. Serena Williams never thought she would ever get married to a white man. And now she is. So look up to people who have had strong interracial relationships and believe that yours will work too.

Is he really into you?

Well, if you want to be sure, then look for your white man on black women white men dating sites. The thing with such specific sites is that people here will have the same goal. And that is black-white dating. So white men on such sites a definitely looking to date black women. So, if a white man shows interest in you, it's because he likes you. Move with the flow and see where it goes.

Develop a thick skin for black backlash

Even the most famous black women in relationships have had their fair share of backlash. Meghan Markle, again, Serena Williams, Tamara Mowry... So if they can be attacked like that, what makes you think you won't?

People will always have something to say about your black woman white man relationship. It might be positive. It might be negative. The thing is, be ready for both. And don’t let it bother you or affect your relationship.

When you start dating a white man, you will start noticing things about race and racism. When a waiter ignores you at a restaurant, even when it's for other reasons, you will start questioning whether it was racist or not. Unless someone out rightly says or does something racist, learn to brush it off.

The sex

People always like saying, 'once you go black, you never go back'. And more than half the time, sex pops up. Now, you may be worried about the size of his member. Well, do not sweat it. The thing is: sex is usually beyond size. It's about the connection, attraction and the energy you bring to it.

Now, just as the stereotype that black men are well endowed, there is one about how white men are great at satisfying women. And they are thorough with their foreplay.

The thing is: sex isn't something you need to worry yourself about. Worry about forming a real connection with this man first. Then see how the sex will be...

Your black woman white man relationship won't make you a less black

Yes! Your parents might resist your relationship. Yes, people within your community might call you a sell-out. But you don't have to defend your ethnicity. Plus your identity will never change. You will always be that strong, beautiful black woman you have always been.

He might say something prejudiced and not even notice

Sometimes, with the black lives matter and all lives matter campaigns going on, you might find yourselves having fights over such things. These topics are racially biased. So chances are, if you find yourselves on different sides of the coin, a little racist stuff might pop up.

If this has nothing to do with you or your relationship, then take it as it… a person expressing their opinion.

The thing is, most people in such relationships have made it work. All relationships require work. Race has got nothing to do with it. So dive in and make it work.

If you need more advice on black woman white man relationships, read A Black Girls Guide to Dating White Men.